Your dating entitlement!

April 4, 2012 - Uncategorized

When I came out of a 6 year relationship I hadn’t tried to ‘chat a girl up’ in all that time and at that time I remember actually wondering if I’d ever get lucky enough o find anyone else who would want me…  that was my honest opinion about what I thought my self worth was.  One of the first things I did after I moved into my new place was to Google ‘How To Meet Women’ after a few hours of research I found a book called the Mystery Method that I ordered and read.  That book changed the my whole perception about how I felt about myself.  After that I read The Game which is another story of a guy who struggled meeting women into an authority in the subject.

I still remember now the thoughts that where swirling around my head at that time.  here where two guys.. of average looks who could by hard work learn how to be more successful.  At the time I had a good job with good friends that I was entitled to see someone.  I think a week or two after that I started dating girl.  She was a bit overweight but had a pretty face..  after we’d been going out for a few weeks and the initial worry that I wouldn’t be single forever had gone I realised that I  really wanted to date someone suited towards my lifestyle and goals, so I finished with her.  As soon as I had that thought I made a promise to myself that I was entitled to NEVER have to settle for anyone who I didn’t think was good enough for me.

After about 3 months of going out and meeting I was in a situation where I had 2 or 3 different girls number, at first I thought it was  wrong and unfair to date more than one person at the same time..   I can’t really remeber why I thought it was unfair more that society deemed you a player and that was a negative thing that I didn’t want to be tarnished.  When I thought about it some more I realsied I was entitle to make the most of my life and it didn’t matter how many people I dated as long as I was open with people and didn’t make them think they were the only ones.

Since I made that decision my level of success grew again.  There has been times when I’ve dated one person exculsively and there have been times when I have seen 5 or 6 girls at the same time.  So..  the one thing that had always prevented me from having this lifestyle was ME and my own limiting beliefs in what I was entitled to in life.  From changing my mindset I’ve had an amazing life that i one time I could never have dreamed of and I did this by expanding what I allowed myself to be entitled to . If your starting out ask yourself this one question…  what am I entitled to ?  If you don’t like the answer, re-frame it and make a plan on how to get there.  Do it!

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