What to talk about on an online dating site ?

August 1, 2011 - Online Dating
What to talk about on an online dating site ?

Howdy peeps!  When talking to people online there are countless possibilities of things to ask.  To stand out from the crowd you want to be interesting and fun.  Get away form the normal boring questions that every other guys going to ask, or, at a minimum ask those questions in a fun and unique way.  By far these are a list of questions I have been asked the most frequently.

  • Hey, how are you ?
  • What have you got planned for weekend ?
  • Did you have a good weekend ?
  • What bring you on here ?
  • How goes the dating ?

For me all these questions stink of… a)you can’t think of anything interesting to say, or, b) you haven’t got anything interesting to talk about.  My philosophy towards on-line dating is that I know I’m a catch, you seem like you could be a catch, lets get to know each other and find out.  Asking someone how they are is pretty dull and low risk.  For me it says your either to lazy to write to me properly, or, you don’t know what to ask.  OK so I make it sound simple enough, then what should you ask ? Finding questions to ask is pretty straight forward.  I did a very quick search on the most popular threads from a very well recognised girls magazine website.  Anything that was popular I wrote down. After I had a list I sent different emails out to calibrate what worked and what didn’t.  From a quick 2 minute scan I’ve just done I found :

  • If you were in a band, what instrument would you most likely play?
  • Who would you rather go out with Will Smith or Matt Le Blanc (Joey from Friends)?
  • Make millions in blockbusters OR win an Academy Award?
  • Would you rather never go shopping again or never have sex again?
  • Would you rather be with someone really rich that you didn’t love or with someone with no money who you did love
  • Would you rather have a 100 acquaintances or 1 best friend
  • If your other half cheated on you would you rather that he had a one night stand with some random girl he met at a seedy bar, or, he went on a date with a girl he absolutely adores other than you but the furthest they’ve ever gone together is snogging.

These might not be the best questions to use but it shows you the process to find good questions.  Also if you read any of the above they’re at a minimum original and there going to get you into a conversation that’s going to flow a lot easier.

There’s a great website dedicated to what to talk about online dating called talk about online dating sites. I really recommend downloading their free eBook which contains over 100 things you can ask on an online dating site.  You can read my review of the book here.

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