My philosophy of starting conversations online

October 25, 2010 - Online Dating
My philosophy of starting conversations online
I’m pretty sure I’m the same as most people, I have a ton of things to do and not enough time to do them all.  As much as I enjoy on-line dating and plentyoffish I can’t AND don’t want to spend all my time and energy being on the site.  The reason why I use the site is simple

‘To meet women in real life’

I don’t want to spend hours exchanging messages with people I’m either never going to meet up with, or, if you do meet up they don’t look like their photo, or, you just don’t get that spark with that person.  All that time and focus you have invested gets wasted.  Instead of wasting time on girls I’m never going to meet I would much rather prefer to have spent my time on something more meaningful.

If you spend between five to thirty minutes writing a opening conversation email to each girl you want to talk to and your talking to 10 or more people, that can translate into several hours everyday that you can loose.  As I mentioned in my previous post, some girls get bombarded with mails from guys everyday and they won’t have the time to read and reply to every email they get, some people might have stopped using the site, some might just not be interested (hey it happens to everyone) but whatever reason they don’t reply to your email.  Personally I rather be spending my time with girls I know, updating this blog, trying to kick start my business off, training or countless other things.
My approach to beginning a conversation with someone is simple I want it to be short, original, fun and with the overall goal of meeting up in real life as quickly as possible.  If I’m interested in a person I want to spent the minimum amount of time talking to them on the site as possible.  While your talking to someone on the site your just another guy from plentyoffish.  The girl in question will be talking to a number of other guys, more than likely more guys than you are girls.  As soon as you start to communicate with the girl off of the site over txt, phone or meeting in person your turning yourself from that guy from plentyoffish, a photo and a few emails, into an actual person she knows and can trust.

As soon as you get a response from a girl you have something to work with, a platform to move on.  From that point you know that she wants a conversation or she;s interested in you and wants to get to know you a bit better.  I always assume that as a girls on a dating site that she’s there to meet people.  She wants you to ask her out, so I always assume she interested in me….

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