5 All-Time Best PUA Openers

September 12, 2013 - Tips To Meet Women
5 All-Time Best PUA Openers

Everything you need to know about using openers to start a conversation with a woman

There seems to be a mystery as to what sort of opening lines you should use to start a conversation with a woman.

Chances are you’ve heard some god awful pick up lines over the years.  Don’t worry, this page will only talk about using some of the best pua openers I’ve come across over the years.

First, I’m going to give you a brief background about what openers are, and why they work so well.  And then I’m going to give you a list of my the best pua openers I’ve used over the years.

What is a Pua Opener?

Most of you probably first heard the term pua after reading Neil Strauss’s book The Game.  Neil Strauss used a lot of acronyms in the book to describe elements of a sort of sub-culture he was involved in.  PUA stands for “Pick Up Artist.”  Neil refers to the words used to start a conversation as “openers.”  So most guys who study game refer to these sort of openers as PUA Openers.

What makes them different then pick up lines?

When you think of pick up lines you probably think of some cheesy line like “What’s your sign?”  Or “Did it hurt?  Fallingfree from Heaven.”

Just for the record, none of the opening lines I’ll be talking about are anything like the typical pick up lines your AFC (average frustrated chump) friends have probably advised you to use.  In fact, as I go through some of the best openers, you’ll realize that most of them don’t even seem like they are designed to attract women.

What makes a pua opener different then a pick up line is that generally openers do not start out with a strong statement of interest.  Instead, most openers leave the woman guessing on your intention.  This makes you seem more interesting to the woman.  And allows her to put her guard down for a minute and gives you an opportunity to connect with her.

What should an opener accomplish?

The sole job of an opener is said to be to start a conversation with a girl.  I disagree a little about this.  I believe that a good pua opener just several jobs.

1.  A good opener starts a conversation with a girl in a way that differentiates you from most of the other guys who have approached her in the past.

2.  A good opener allows you to start a conversation with a woman in that skips over the normal, boring small talk that kills most approaches pretty quickly.

3.  A good opener engages everyone the woman is talking to.  When approaching a group you should always open the entire group.


Types of PUA Openers

Most people who have read Neil Strauss’s book The Game think of openers as mainly asking a woman her opinion on something.  But that is just one type of opener.  In this section I’m going to outline the most common types of openers.

So generally there are – I classify about five different ways to start a conversation. One is directly using a direct opener. The second is using an indirect opener. Third is using a gimmicky type of opener. Fourth is a situational type of opener. And fifth is inviting her into a conversation you’re already having.

So let’s talk about the different kinds of openers.

Direct Pua Openers

Now, what a direct opener is, is you’re letting her know your intention immediately. There is no hiding the fact that you have come over here to hit on her. And you can do this by saying something like ‘Hey, you’re giving off an incredible energy, and I had to come over here and see what you’re deal was’.

What differentiates a direct opener from a standard pick up line is your delivery.  You are not complimenting the woman to seek her approval.  You’re complimenting her from a place of complete an utter confidence. Your unapologetic attitude is what makes you so attractive to her.



In-direct Opinion Pua Openers

Indirect is either making a vague statement, or asking her opinion on something. You’re basically starting a conversation in a way that, in the same way that you would start a conversation with somebody else at the bar.

And it’s just asking opinion on something. An example of that is, ‘Do I look gay?’

Another one, if you ever saw the ‘Keys to the VIP’ video with Cajun is, ‘Do I look like a drug dealer?’ You can ask something along the lines of ‘Hey, is kissing cheating?’



Gimmicky Openers

Gimmicky openers are something that it takes a certain type of personality to use.  You’re basically using kind of like an outside source to start talking to a girl.  It can be something like pretending your doing an interview, using a prop, or doing magic.



Situation Openers

The next type of openers that PUAs use are situational.  An example of a situation opener is just turning to a woman you’re next to and making a comment about the environment.

To use a situation opener you just need to become aware of what is going on around you.  And as soon as you notice something worth commenting on, you can just turn to the woman and start the conversation.



So those are the main types of PUA openers that you can use at a bar or club to start a conversation with a girl.

I think you can clearly see that these are way different then using cheesy pick up lines you might have heard used on some sitcom on television.

Now since most of you have already read the book The Game by Neil Strauss, I will not include pua openers listed in that book.  Instead, I’m going to list some of the most effective opening lines I’ve used to start conversations with girls.

So if you’ve ever asked yourself “how to start a conversation with a girl?”

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